When I say self-care, what comes to mind? Practicing yoga, speaking positive affirmations, meditating, eating healthily? For some, this may be the case, but I want to break it down into simpler terms so you can start taking better care of yourself without having to invest in any new schemes or diets.
I define self-care by understanding, acknowledging and doing more of the things that bring me happiness, peace of mind and excitement, while identifying the people and things that cause anxiety, hurt and disappointment, and modifying my lifestyle to increase my exposure to good energy, while minimizing my exposure to negative energy.
You may already know what, and who, brings out the best of you, and vice versa. If you’re unsure, then for the next 2 weeks keep a running record of situations that present themselves, and make notes on the ones that evoked positive feelings and those that didn’t. You may start to see a pattern. Once you’ve identified what works for you and what doesn’t, then the choice becomes 100% yours, to decide how you choose to spend your time and live your life.
When you spend your time in happy, uplifting environments it is scientifically proven that your cognitive behavior functions more effectively. When under stressful conditions, our brain activity starts to shut down and we struggle to make intelligent decisions. Our lifestyles depend on us making the right choices.
Creating new habits requires dissolving old ones. I like saying dissolving as opposed to breaking, because the visuals associated with both these words is very different. Dissolving insinuates a clean, fluid like result, whereas breaking creates a mess that needs to be cleaned up.
It takes 21 days to create a new habit. This means 21 days of consistently acting differently than you’ve trained yourself to do for years. If you “fall off the wagon”, the 21 day cycle resets. Keep at it, because to make positive changes in your life takes work and commitment. You need to want it, if it’s to manifest.
These concepts may seem like common sense, but they’re not common practice.